behavior

If you are willing to look at another person's behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time cease to react at all.


Yogi Bhajan

drowning

Let us remember not to ask anything of someone who is drowning.

When a person is breaking, broken, they are so exhausted, so drained. Asking them to come to us and share their brokenness is asking them to do more when all they can do to stay alive is to tread water.


How to Reach Out to Someone Who Is Struggling by Omid Safi

a gentle reminder

So far you’ve survived 100% of your worst days.
You’re doing great.

continued mutual forgiveness

all friendships of any length are based on a continued, mutual forgiveness. without tolerance and mercy all friendships die.

[...]

to remain friends we must know the other and their difficulties and even their sins and encourage the best in them, not through critique but through addressing the better part of them, the leading creative edge of their incarnation, thus subtly discouraging what makes them smaller, less generous, less of themselves

David Whyte (via)

move forward

You know that bullshit people say about how, when you fall, you gotta get up? I reject that shit man. You know why?

The whole thing is a fall. It can't help but be.

A perpetual state of grasping in the dark.

It's not about getting up. It's about stumbling. Stumbling in the right direction.

It's the only true way to move forward.


Mr. Robot S02E03

stop blaming others

Stop blaming me, thinking I'm the problem. If you think I'm the problem, then you have to change me. If you realize that you're the problem, then you can change yourself, learn something and grow wiser. Most people want everyone else in the world to change themselves. Let me tell you, it's easier to change yourself than everyone else.


Robert T. Kiyosaki