If you are willing to look at another person's behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time cease to react at all.

Yogi Bhajan


Let us remember not to ask anything of someone who is drowning.

When a person is breaking, broken, they are so exhausted, so drained. Asking them to come to us and share their brokenness is asking them to do more when all they can do to stay alive is to tread water.

How to Reach Out to Someone Who Is Struggling by Omid Safi

a gentle reminder

So far you’ve survived 100% of your worst days.
You’re doing great.

continued mutual forgiveness

all friendships of any length are based on a continued, mutual forgiveness. without tolerance and mercy all friendships die.


to remain friends we must know the other and their difficulties and even their sins and encourage the best in them, not through critique but through addressing the better part of them, the leading creative edge of their incarnation, thus subtly discouraging what makes them smaller, less generous, less of themselves

David Whyte (via)

bad love

"Just when you think RY X has given you all...he keeps on giving."